because at least I know how to answer those, and the ones that don’t have answers for them — well, I know about those too. I know about letting my child feel his sadness and being a witness to his sadness and being here for him.
Bring me the controversy, bring me people from wherever, whenever, telling me I’m WRONG, that I can’t possibly be a good person for having adopted this child away from his birth family and birth home, no matter the circumstances.
Give me something I can hang onto, something I can latch onto, give me the Adopter, call me something derisive, call me whatever else; I don’t care.
I’m just tired of being The Sick Mom right now. I’m tired of my boy having The Sick Mom, of having been in bed for most of the past two weeks because just when it seemed that things might be turning the corner, I got massive infections at two drain sites (the third drain came out on its own), so that has meant at least another week of Mommy in bed.
Let me take a tough adoption question from my smart, smart boy, one that I can handle, instead of this from him this morning:
Mommy, why did you get cancer?
“I don’t know why I got cancer, Nate.”
For the love of God, I don’t know why I got cancer, but I did and it sucks and I hate that it affects my boy.
At least he got an invitation to the neighbor boy’s house so he didn’t have to see how much I bawled after that.
*tears*
OOOOooohhh Judy ((((((Judy)))))
LOTS of WELL WISHES to YOU…
Take care. Breathe softly.
And thanks for stopping by.
This too shall pass–this too shall pass—– hope each day is a little better than the one before and hugs to you and your boys…..cancer just bites it realllly just does.
((((Judy))))
You are honest, and stronger than you think. It is okay for kids to see that sometimes we adults stumble. All that matters is that he knows how much you love him, and with all the strength you can muster, you will heal.
Oh Judy, I am so sorry you have to go through this! Just know God is with you and we all love you.
Stay strong. (((HUGS)))
(((((Judy, Frank and Nate)))))))
Oh, honey, I’m so so sorry. I’ll be praying that you heal very quickly now. Sending good thoughts, and of course a big (((((((hug))))))).
Thank you, all of you.
By the way, Judy, yes, this SUCKS, but at least he’s got the courage to ask you.
That’s one strong little boy you have there.