Yesterday, I had to have a little talk with Nate about Things Not To Say In Public, especially when the people you are saying them about are around, because they both happened, and yes, Mommy was mortified. It went something like this:
“Nate, there are certain things we don’t talk about when the people that we’re discussing them about are around. Things like:”
He’s a really fat man.
Is that a man or a woman?
ME:
You may not know this yet because you’re young, but those things aren’t considered polite. They might make people feel bad. There are other things that might make people feel bad too. Actually, anything about how people look, like don’t say anything about someone’s weight. Don’t say, ‘that person is really fat.’ Don’t say ‘is that a man or a woman.’ And don’t say anything about if you think anyone is . . . well, ugly.
At that point, I couldn’t think of any more things to add. You have to know that this was just after the “Is that a man or a woman?” incident and not that long after the “He’s a really fat man” incident so I was pretty flustered.
*sigh*
So he’s very good on transexual/transgender and gay, but not so good on very overweight men or what he thought was an androgynous-looking female. And to be fair, she looked completely like a woman to me; her hair was just way pulled up under her Wendy’s hat, she wasn’t wearing any make-up (which I wouldn’t either if I was working at Wendy’s) and those uniforms they have to wear don’t do anything for anybody.
So yeah. In most ways, a pretty typical five-year-old. Heh.

