Posted by: justenjoyhim | June 27, 2007

“Potent Push For Adoption”

This Jessie Davis case brings out all kinds of interesting angles.

Leave it to Michael Medved to illustrate why single motherhood is such a horrible thing that Jessie’s son, Blake Davis, should have been placed for adoption:

For two-year-old Blake, it didn’t represent kindness or generosity for Ms. Davis to keep the child and to attempt to raise him in her painful position. The more tender, loving, unselfish and, ultimately, more motherly decision would have been to place the child in a two parent home with vastly better odds of achieving happiness and success.

And this:

Rather than removing the stigma against unwed motherhood, and encouraging single moms to keep and raise their babies, society should do everything possible to urge single, pregnant girls to give their babies the ultimate gift of love by arranging their adoption into loving, functional, two parent homes.
[emphasis mine]

OK, you just have to read the whole article to understand how he ultimately comes to this conclusion.

The Jessie Davis Case and Dangers Of Out-Of-Wedlock Parenthood

I am — quite uncharacteristically, I know — at a loss for words. At a time when a young woman has lost her life and others are already impugning her character, I find it incomprehensible why someone needs to use Jessie’s life as a single mother as a reason for why unmarried expectant woman need to consider adoption for their babies.

I’m fairly speechless. I’m sure words will come back to me, but they’re gone right now. I’m honestly flabbergasted.

Someone? Anyone? Ferris?

Responses

Angry rants abound at Conservative site!

I think they should add forced adoption for kids of single moms to the Republican Party platform so they can lose even more spectacularly in 2008 than they did last year.

As much as I’m a big believer in understanding the opinions of people who have different views, sites like that are just for ranting and cheerleading, and most of the people who read it will forget all about it the second they get distracted by a black person driving through their neighborhood or whatever.

Malleigh, you go, girl!!

B, true, true. Medved just writes it and then sits back and lets people rant and rave at each other, probably enjoying it from the safety of his easy chair.

I just don’t know how one makes the giant leap from Jessie Davis’ murder to single women need to place their babies for adoption. It boggles the mind.

I always feel slightly ill when I read things like this. Mostly because I know that people who think this way are absolutely, 100% sure that they are right and the rest of us are going straight to hell.

There’s no reasoning with them and asking for consideration of other opinions. There’s no empathy. There’s no compassion. There’s nothing but smug self-righteousness and bible verses.

Maybe I should take up Wicca.

Sigh.

I was raised by a single mother, unsuccessfully. She lacked the ability to be a decent parent, and had NO business parenting me.

That being said, just because a woman is single, doesn’t make her a bad mother. I know many single moms who are better moms that some married moms I know. Likewise I know some single moms who suck at parenting. Oh and just because they aren’t great parents by society standards doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t be raising their kids.

There are women who lack the skills to parent alone. I think those women are VERY VERY few, but I think they are out there. My mother was one of those women. Obviously Jesse was NOT one of these women because her son was happy and healthy and obviously very cared for.

I think that single moms have a harder time, but that is because they are doing something alone. In a perfect world the two people who created a baby would be able to love each other and take care of the child together, but since we don’t live in perfect, we need to accept and support and love single mothers. They are taking on a task that should be supported, but so many people don’t think that. I really have to do a post on single motherhood someday. *sigh*

Oh my god. I don’t have the words either.

“most of the people who read it will forget all about it the second they get distracted by a black person driving through their neighborhood or whatever.”
This made me lol for real.

I didn’t follow the link (only when I’m up to the horror) but that argument, particularly at that time, makes me really sick.

Bible verses? I ain’t afraid o’ no Bible verses. Deuteronomy 23:12-13 is all I need. Tell them that’s what they can do with their Bible verses. Also, it makes a great argument against indoor plumbing, just in case the local zoning board gets on your case.

Also, that site isn’t nearly as bad as places like Free Republic (not linked because you really don’t want to look, trust me). I really do think this culture of offensiveness that’s brewing on the right is a good thing because it’ll wind up alienating pretty much everybody else. Plus it’s great for making fun of. Some of them clearly believe they are very deep thinkers. ;)

Blech. *vomits in your comments*

What a terrible, awful thing to write, PERIOD; let alone in an article referencing Jessie Davis. That makes me want to vomit in the reporter’s mouth.

I had the clueless single mom, too. I actually had a whole session with SuzyQ the other day about what my feelings were regarding my own mother and what would have happened if she’d chosen to place me for adoption. As much as this seems like a slap in the face to the adult adoptees who read here, which it’s not intended to be AT ALL, I do wish she had chosen adoption. There are very few things that could have happened to me in an adoptive home that would have been worse than living with my own inept mother. In fact, I’d just have to have ended up dead for the outcome not to be better.

BUT…BUT…BUT…as Erin says, my mom was one of the few. There are loads of single moms out there doing a fantastic job. I see it every day. To imply that every single mother should rush to an adoption agency the minute they see the blue stick is an atrocity. I didn’t pull up the article, either; I wasn’t in the mood to spend an entire evening fuming. But I can only assume the writer of that gem of editorial sludge was a man? A comfortably middle-class, Dubya-loving MAN?

*where is that carton of rotten eggs?*

Well we can probably all think of at least two or three situations off the top of our head to counter this… I mean.. how completely irresponsible for Mary Winkler to bring children into the world with her husband the abusive preacher… and even the Benoit case… Dang irresponsible wife got what was coming to her.

Maybe the jails are over crowded with people without fathers because the ones with father were taught how to get away with it! LOL.

There are just sooo many different counters for this… but one thing is clear… she absolutely and irresponsibly created these children alone… the man should bear no responsibility. Oops.. he created kids… her fault.. just fix that by placing them in other homes.

Just the fact that the situation even made him think .. this is because she was an irresponsible single mom.. is absurd. What about the dude who killed her then left his own kid there??? Oh… he just had to deal with the irresponsible gal he got pregnant… UGH.

Maybe we shouldnt even take this guys movie reviews as credible.. he clearly thinks on a VERY different level than the general population..

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